What advice do you have for someone who is trying to give up on smoking and failing miserably?
He is aware of its disadvantagesa and would love to stop smoking, but each time he goes back to the addiction he feels like a loser and thinks he will never learn. That makes him keep smoking!
He is aware of its disadvantagesa and would love to stop smoking, but each time he goes back to the addiction he feels like a loser and thinks he will never learn. That makes him keep smoking!
March 1st, 2011 at 3:47 pm
Where do you guys live? If you are close to the Cincinnati area I will do what I can to arrange an autopsy. Even if it is just an animal, I believe that one look at how fragile the lungs really are, most smokers would think twice.
March 1st, 2011 at 3:59 pm
The most important thing to do is to take command. The brain is the ultimate authority; its decisions are final, binding, and not subject to appeal. Once one recognizes and assumes that authority, smoking can be overcome. My father smoked for decades. One day, my mother noticed that she had not seen him smoking recently. “I quit,” said he, and that was that.
March 1st, 2011 at 4:01 pm
Keep trying- it usually takes several tries before someone sucessfully quits smoking.
Try different methods of quitting- the patch, gum, quit smoking classes, etc. He might hit on something that works.
It might help him to focus on why he wants to quit. Does he understand, on a deep level, all the good reasons for quitting smoking? (like health, kids, good looks, vitality, energy, even sexual potency…) Keeping those reasons in mind, like writing them someplace where he can see them, might help.
This last one might be the hardest to bring up, but sometimes people smoke because it makes an underlying problem feel better. I’m thinking here about depression, but I’ve heard it’s true of other psychological problems too. I’ve read that if a smoker has an underlying psychological problem, it makes it much more difficult to give up smoking.
So your friend might benefit from getting checked out for depression, or other problems. If something else is going on, treating it will make quitting a lot easier.
March 1st, 2011 at 4:05 pm
this may sound odd, but they have 12 step recovery for smoking, its the same concept that they use for alcoholics.
its very very effective. and ive has numerous people i know who have used it.
other things he can do is try chewing very cinnamon gum. it has the same shock and smoking and it gives him something to do, instead.
also, when deciding to quit, air out the house, take every cloth and wash it if possible , use fabric refresher on fabric that cannot be washed, get an air purifier, and make sure he is not around smoke at all. the reason for this is nicotene may be still on the cloth.
make sure he throws away everything that reminds him of smoking.
also tell him to make goals, write on his calendar, and think about major reasons he wants to quit. having big reasons beyond the usual help. example, wants to play with kids and dog, wants to help his teeth.. ect.
hope i could help.
good luck =]
March 1st, 2011 at 4:38 pm
When I finally gave up (after about 20 attempts) the thing that I think helped me finally make it was herbal cigarettes – the nicotine free ones you used to buy in Health Food shops. When I was absolutely desperate for a cigarette (I didn’t use patches or gum or anything) I would have one of these – half way through, I would realise how pointless it was because I wasn’t getting the nicotine hit but by then the moment had pased and I could carry on without having exposed myself to more nicotine. I kept a packet in the house for about 4 years because I had previously given up for up to 2 years at a time and then started again. I also told friends when I went out that, however much | begged, not to give me a cigarette when I had had a couple of drinks – even 14 years later, I crave a cigartte when I have had a drink.
March 1st, 2011 at 5:33 pm
try again and keep trying until u suceed
March 1st, 2011 at 5:46 pm
get him to see his doctor and ask for the stop-smoking PILL, CHANTIX….. it’s a miracle!!…. I used it to stop after 46 years of smoking ….. (after failing miserably several other times to quit, using other kinds of stopping aids…. patch, gum, cold turkey, etc… this WORKS!!)……it’s covered by most Insurances, too!….